Taking Back My Power. No More Facebook Brain Drain.

Taking Back My Power. No More Facebook Brain Drain.

You will be with you longer than anyone else on this planet – why not make it a good relationship? ~Louise Hay

In having a heart-to-heart with my inner self of late, I’m being honest in looking at what in my life drains my energy.

I’ve been feeling for quite some time now that Facebook oftentimes takes away from my precious and valuable energy. While I’ve met some wonderful people via this social media avenue and it has been valuable in helping me spread the word about my work, I’m giving thought to how I will best use it going forward.

As I mentioned a few weeks ago, here on my blog and in my newsletter, I’ve been pondering writing another book – one that feels the most challenging of the six books I’ve written to date. It will require much focus and it’s a book I feel more and more everyday I want to write.

This means being serious about looking at what feeds my mind which is fuel for my inspiration and energy. This has me facing the fact that when I find myself aimlessly scrolling Facebook it actually is more often than not, a brain drain for me.

In being honest and paying attention to my habits, when I feel stuck in my writing, working on a creative project, or working through the course I’m currently in at Oracle School, I’ve come to realize how easy it is to distract myself instead of sitting through something that feels challenging at the moment.

Oftentimes without even knowing it, when I feel stuck in my work or in school, I’ll realize I’m mindlessly scrolling through Facebook. I don’t even remember clicking over to Facebook! This can then take me down a bunch of different avenues. I have many interests, which is a lovely thing in ways to have, but also can leave me feeling drained when I lose focus (Hey look! A chicken!).  🙂

I don’t like how this feels anymore. And why I love the quote by Louise Hay in that I’m the only one who can be accountable to myself. I get to decide how my life will be meaningful and how I wish to feel on a daily basis. I want to spend more of my time feeling energized, not drained.

I’m also giving thought to if I will continue to share links of my blog posts to my Facebook page or not. Though this one feels scarier to me as I think about how I will share my writing and future books I publish. And this quote speaks to me and what I’m working on:

But I’ve been frustrated with how Facebook has changed their algorithms and how it has come down to money for ads and how many likes (or not) you receive which then determines if your posts are seen (or not).

At the beginning of the whole social media advent, it was for me, in that having a social media presence meant I could fulfill a purpose of mine in making a difference and being a positive voice in a world that can too often be filled with negativity.

While I’ve not made a definitive decision whether or not I’ll continue to share my posts via Facebook, it’s made me think about this home I call my digital home – my blog and website, Joyful Paws. I’ve been reading with great interest how blogging is making a return and how other creatives, such as Jon Katz of Bedlam Farm and Tammy Strobel of RowdyKittens.com, are thinking about Facebook and embracing taking back of their time and how they spend it. I agree with Tammy, who is also is a one woman operation as I am, that I only have so much energy to go around.

Thanks to Tammy I’ve also been reading with interest thought-provoking articles from Cal Newport, a Computer Science Professor, and the affects using social media has had on many, myself included. All of this has been confirmation for the many feelings I’ve been experiencing.

My digital home, when I think about when I first began and evolved in my blogging platform, is much the same way I see my home in which I live. It’s at the heart of who I am. A friend recently said to me when visiting me at home, sitting in my living room, how cozy it was, and how she could feel the beautiful energy and love within it. I can’t tell you how that warms my heart!

Home is so important to me – it’s always been one of my values. And so is my home on the internet, my blog. It means so much to me when you stop by and leave a comment. Even if you may not always agree with something I’ve written, it’s about being able to have a constructive and meaningful dialogue. You don’t always get that on Facebook.

For now, until I decide how I will move forward, I will continue to share links to my blog posts on my Facebook page, but won’t be interacting as much there anymore. In large part due to how I wish to conserve my energy because trying to be so many different places can leave me feeling drained…and then frustrated with myself for not having the energy to do what I really want to be doing.

What I’d welcome is when you feel called to share in conversation or simply leave a comment about something I’ve written, that you feel comfortable in doing so on my blog. Consider it your personal invitation to get comfy in my big red chair in my living room and imagine me pouring you a cup of tea or glass of wine. 🙂 

As I’ve been doing with blogs I enjoy, I’ve gone back to subscribing to them (and commenting directly on their blog) or adding them to my Feedly reader. I’ve always enjoyed supporting artists, and this means writers, too!  Two great options to choose from if you wish to do the same with my blog and subscribe if you don’t want to miss when I post. 

In regards to my interaction on Facebook, for now and the foreseeable future, it will be much more limited as I take back my power and focus on what feeds my soul…. in turn, it’s my hope that by my focusing more on what matters to me, it will encourage you do the same, and with your new found energy you will come sit a spell now and then here at my digital home, and engage in conversation when you feel called to.

Last but not least, thank you from the bottom of my heart to those of you who have been with me here on my blog since the beginning. Please know it means so much.



P.S. I’ve reinstalled a helpful app on my computer that you might find useful also if you are feeling called to limit your social media exposure. It’s called Freedom where you can block your social media sites for a period of time. Because after all, we are all a work in progress, and it can be easy to fall back into old patterning. 😉

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  1. Barbara, I can’t tell you how happy I was when I read this. I was getting SO upset with Facebook – for many reasons – and contemplating deleting my page. Like you, when I found I was mindfully lost – I would find myself scrolling through Facebook for absolutely no reason at all. Why don’t I pick up a book? Why don’t I color? Why don’t I go outside with my dogs and just enjoy that? Not to mention all the negativity Facebook has been getting recently. Thank you for being such an inspiration – as you have been – for so long to me. In more ways than one. Can’t wait to get your new book, whatever it may subject. Hugs to you and Miss G!!!!

  2. Oh this my girl is on point!! I am constantly in battle with time sucking things like social media. When I should be actually sitting in a chair and let the words come out, I do the same thing. This leaves me with yet another day and nothing real accomplished.

    1. Thank you my fellow blogger, Lori. I’ve been using the Freedom app to keep me in check. Super helpful! Your blog is one I don’t want to miss, so am subscribed. For some reason I wasn’t getting your posts, but signed up again. 🙂 XO

    1. Love hearing this from another fellow blogger, Monica. Yes, to taking back our space. As I said, I’m not 100% sure yet how this will all unfold for me, just having made the decision to be more thoughtful of what works for me feels so much better. 🙂 XO

  3. I can’t tell you what a confirmation this is. A few weeks ago my laptop went “out”… I thought “oh no”. We did buy a new one that day, but took awhile to get it up and running… I cannot begin to tell you how FREE I felt again. It was liberating and a stark reality check. Even though much of my communication is done through email… FB as much as I enjoy sharing and being in “touch”, and meeting new “friends”… I wouldn’t have been blessed in meeting you Barb if it wasn’t for FB.. it can become more of a habit than I am willing to use my precious time on. So once again, I am not totaling eliminating it from my life, but once again learning as in all things to apply moderation and balance. How refreshing! Touching base with my spirit and soul and igniting that inner glow and flow is such a blessing.

    1. Yay! always lovely when one gets confirmation isn’t it? And I do understand those you’d not have met if not for Facebook – I get that and I’m very grateful for all I’ve met and who have found me and my work because of it too. But it’s something I’m going to be more conscious about how I use it as a benefit, instead of draining me. I sincerely appreciate you taking time to comment right here on my digital home – my blog. Thanks and cheers to more inner glow! XO

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