dying

Understanding Death

I suppose that sounds like a heavy topic, huh?  At a recent therapy dog meeting which Frankie and I attend once a month at Sharon S Richardson Hospice Community a poem was shared with us on a way to understand dying.  I thought it was such a beautiful poem that I just had to share.

By Henry Van Dyke

I am standing upon the seashore.  A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.  She is an object of beauty and strength.  I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then someone at my side says:  "There, she is gone!"

"Gone where?"

Gone from my sight.  That is all.  She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me, not in her.  And just at the moment when someone at my side says, "There, she is gone!" there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout:  "Here she comes!"

And that is dying.

How We View Death in Our Society… and What Animals Teach Us


I was just blown away by a post I found on the blog Hospice 4 Animal’s and one vets life changing experience she is having regarding hospice and death.  It struck such a chord with me that I had to share.  Being involved with hospice work with Frankie has opened my eyes and my heart to view death as not something dreadful or scary, but a time of transition.  And for me, personally, I don’t believe animals fear death… and wow, as you know me by now, I believe they teach us about living.  So without further ado, I share a portion of the blog post that blew me away and at the end invite you to read more at their blog, as well as invite you to share your thoughts.

“I have learned in our culture , especially in the USA, we AFRAID of death.  Sharen Myers quoted Margaret Mead who said “When someone is born, we rejoice.  When someone marries, we celebrate.  When someone dies, we pretend nothing happened.”  Death IS the equal and opposite process of birth.  If we want to live well, we need to die well and vice versa.  We may try to ignore this for ourselves, but we are faced with death full force with our pets.  We love them so much and they love us so purely.  We are responsible for them, feed them and take care of them, but in reality  they take care of us. I know there is an amazing spiritual, pure love connection with our animals.  I know I am being loved when I look into a kitty like Zoomi’s eyes.  There is a message there, and now I am not afraid to admit that, and thrive in that knowledge.  The Hospice Symposium has validated the path and the truth that I feel in my gut.  I have found the courage to change my life from that knowledge.  Something about dealing with the moment of death teaches us how to well live our lives.  There is the very kernal of sacredness here, and the lesson is to experience it. ”

Read more… and please do share your thoughts.