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My Memoir I’m Fine Just the Way I Am – Now Available as E-Book!

Posted by Barbara Techel

I want to first take a moment to thank those who hung in there and ordered a paperback copy of my new memoir even though the shipping time was longer than usual or perhaps you are still waiting for your copy to arrive. Thank you, thank you, and thanks so much for your patience! 

I’m happy to share that my memoir is now also available as an e-book through Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Smashwords.

A recent review…thank you, Cynthia!

This is a courageous story of a woman’s deepening into her soul’s truth. While it’s very specific, it’s also a universal story. How do we find the courage to be our true selves? How do we love another without sacrificing our well-being? How do we find our way from our spiritual center and not from the ego?

Barb tells the story of her dog, Gidget, and the tough decisions she had to make in their life together. She pulls on resources she knew were available and discovered new support systems.

An easy to read, inspiring story that gives a sense of what’s possible when we connect with what’s true within us.

~Cynthia Morris, Writer’s Coach and author of The Busy Woman’s Guide to Writing a World-Changing Book

Thank you again for your support of my writing and work. It means so much!

xo,

Barbara

Simple Tasks Guide Us into the Natural Rhythm of Life and Create More Peace

Posted by Barbara Techel

The question I asked for all of us this week: What is it we need to know as we continue to pause in this time of unknown right now?

Chop Wood #42: How symbolic to see the broom on the card with the buckets as we are all being encouraged to continue to sweep away what we no longer need. We’ve had a few weeks now of following the ‘safer at home, sheltering in place’ and being with a myriad of feelings that have come to the surface. This may also include areas of our homes we are quite literally going through, cleaning out, and getting rid of what we no longer need.

While we can’t control what is going on in the outside world, we can continue to do what we can within our own spaces of our homes and minds. “Chop wood, carry water” is a saying I’m sure you’ve heard of. While it may seem tedious at times and we may find ourselves vacillating back to wanting ‘more’ this is an opportunity to pause and shift our perspective because we have nowhere to be right now. 

It’s these simple tasks we practice that will continue to help ground and center us. As we ‘chop wood’ not only will we feel lighter in spirit within the current moment and what is right here, right now, but it is also what we can then take with us as we move into a new world— which is still unknown right now. In other words, this time of pausing, learning to be with all that is coming up for us, then hopefully finding your way back to peace, is something we will come to see as a gift and how fluid life is and how so much of what we perceive as a struggle or the unknown is really just temporary. “This too shall pass.” We are learning to go with the flow even more now.

This line from the guidebook jumped out at me: “There are times when the big dream is meant to lie dormant in your consciousness so that you can pay attention to simple chores in your life.”

When I pulled the Chop Wood card I actually sighed and my body melted into my chair. There really is nothing else for us to do right now, but be with and care for what is right in front of us, which includes our inner world, and what is around us within our homes. This is what carries us to the next step – whatever and whenever that will be.

I know the reason I moved into feeling peace is because of my love of home has always been a value of mine. I love to tinker around my house, creating a cozy and sanctuary-like atmosphere. I enjoy the feeling I get after cleaning a room also – though there are times I dread having to do it – but then the feeling I experience after I’m complete makes me coming back for more. There is really something so satisfying in it.

My inner world is also something I’ve learned to appreciate and nourish over the years. The more I do, the more I find I can flow through uncertain times with more ease.

The animal guiding us as we continue to ‘chop wood’ is Octopus. When I think about Octopus I’ve always marveled at the beautiful fluidity of which they move through the water. The way all their tentacles seem to effortlessly glide through the water is so mesmerizing and calming to me – such an exquisite dance to witness.

We may not know where we are going or what all of this is about right now, but we can still participate in the dance of life by learning new ways in which we move through our days.

I appreciate the words on the card of ‘calm clarity, control over emotions, and self-compassion.’ The fact that we’ve all had to put many parts of our life on hold – or what we knew of life to be before the virus – if we are open to it and not struggling against it – we can discover and feel into the fact that this is what can actually guide us each into a more peaceful place within ourselves.

As emotions arise for each of us we each have the choice to practice self-compassion instead of perhaps falling back into old patterns of berating ourselves for thinking things should be different or judging ourselves for what we think we could have done differently.

We are truly all in this together. The more we can each be with what is coming up for us individually, working through it, and integrating it, not only will we be better off for ourselves, but for those around us. That self-compassion we practice floods our hearts with understanding and love, which then helps us to extend that outward to others.

Much love and peace to you this week.

xo,

Barbara

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Cards used: Wisdom of the Oracle by Colette Baron-Reid and The Ark Animal Tarot and Oracle by Bernadette King

Being at Home with the Dark Says Wombat Spirit

Posted by Barbara Techel

This Monday morning found me meditating in the corner of my writing cottage with the window to the left of me open a crack and the sun streaming in on the right side of me. I loved the feeling of the cool, soft breeze caressing one side of my body while the other half was being warmed by the sun on the right. 

As I closed my eyes the light I’d been savoring became darkness. I chose not to have any music to listen to today, but yet there was sound all around me from birds chirping, to the humming of cars on the highway in the distance, to the tick-tick-tick of a small clock on the table next to me.

There is a real sense of spring in the air today and as I continued to sit in meditation I felt like I was floating on a cloud.

Today’s animal wisdom comes from The Spirit Animal Oracle deck. After taking a picture of the card of Wombat and it came up on my computer appearing a bit dark I thought I should lighten it. But then I realized, no, the light in the background and the card shaded in darkness was perfect for the message today.

Wombat, a nocturnal creature is able to find their way in the dark and their livelihood depends on it. They are also solitary creatures and love to burrow.

So this week, Wombat is encouraging us to also be at home in the dark. Thinking about how the sun was streaming in through the window as I meditated today, I also was holding the space of darkness with my eyes shut and my time devoted to just going inward.

During the day and our eyes wide open paying attention to our to-do lists and where we need to go and what we need to do, can sometimes create a dizzying array of light darting around in our overly busy minds. At least that is how I can feel at times.

But it’s in the darkness, even in difficult times or challenging situations, that we give ourselves the opportunity to slow down, catch our breath, and release our mind from the lightening bolts of constant thoughts.

It’s in those times of slowing down and just being with what is our eyes closed and sinking into darkness, that if we trust that the light will still be there, it always is.

Time and time again I find that in the darkness is when the richest and most impactful wisdom has come to me. It is what sustains me, fills me with an abundance of understanding, and helps propel me forward in a more peaceful way.

Thinking of Wombat being solitary and one who also loves to burrow is our invitation to take time to do that this week. I’ve found so often that many are afraid of being alone with themselves – afraid of what they may feel or perhaps hear from their soul.

But Wombat reminds us that this is where the real sustenance is for living a fulfilling and meaningful life. And the more we can practice this in our every day lives, that even when far from home, this daily nourishment of our inner landscape will help us to feel safe and at home no matter where we are.

Have a beautiful week everyone!

xo,

Barbara

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Card from: The Spirit Animal Oracle deck by Colette Baron-Reid