Welcome to November! The winds blow, the days grow shorter…and it’s the perfect time to go within.
This picture is from one year ago when we visited eastern Tennessee…oh how this tugs at my heart strings to be here again.
It’s also that time of year where perhaps you may be feeling the impending weight of obligations that are ahead with the holiday season.
Recently, I came across this quote that had me reflecting about when we say yes, when we actually mean no and how that can set us up for living a less than joyful and meaningful life.
It’s that old conditioning we’ve bought into, right? My whole summer has been about unlearning so much of what I’ve been conditioned to believe, and putting more into practice what truly feeds my soul.
Just last week someone I loved asked me something that I had said yes to a few years ago. But I’ve since come to a new place in my life. So I needed to be honest and tell the truth that it no longer worked for me.
Interestingly enough, every morning for the past three weeks, I’ve been meditating and pulling an Oracle card from The Wisdom of the Oracle deck, and then journaling what comes up for me.
Just that morning, I pulled the Truth Be Told card, and here I was a few hours later being put to the challenge to do just that.
It was difficult because I didn’t want to cause hurt feelings. And honestly, for a time after, those old patterns of believing I needed to feel guilty crept in.
But the reality? When we say yes and really mean no, we carry this burden and negative feelings that build into resentment….and a resentment that eats away at us which can manifest in unhealthy ways.
Does the quote, “I am under no obligation to make sense to you” now make more sense? When we speak our truth we literally feel lighter in our bodies and our hearts rejoice in freedom…even when it may not make sense to someone else.
But when we don’t speak our truth we carry an unnecessary burden that weighs us down, causing us to live a less than meaningful life. Not good for you and not good for those around you.
Referring to The Wisdom of the Oracle booklet the line that stood out for me for Truth Be Told?…
Be authentic and gloriously flawed, and Spirit will answer with miracles.
As we do this work of stepping more into who we truly are, we need to be gentle with ourselves. And know that we aren’t alone…and that we are all a work in progress.
Lastly, to expand on this, I turned to the Power Animal and Soul Coaching oracle cards to find out what more we need to know to live our truth which is below in my video oracle guidance reading.
Much love and gratitude,
What More Do We Need to Know About Not Making Sense To Others?
As I mentioned a few weeks ago, I’ve stepped away from posting to my blog for awhile as I embark on a 7-week personal mastery program. But also said I may pop in now and then…and so here I am!
Have you ever been blessed with insight from an animal that it changed your life for the better?
This month in celebration of the one year anniversary of my second memoir, Wisdom Found in the Pause – Joie’s Gift, I want to continue to share the wisdom that a wee little black and tan dachshund named Joie, brought to my life.
It’s that wisdom gained that I know without a doubt that Joie wants me to continue to share and be in service in helping other’s walk their path with more clarity, peace, and understanding.
I’ve not been the same since Joie came into my life and then transitioned into spirit ten months later…
I’ve evolved and expanded to a deeper understanding of what purpose is.
I’ve discovered that there are blessings to be found when in transition.
I’ve realized we are never alone and spiritual signposts are there for us to discover if we open to receive them.
I’ve realized that the most valuable gift we can give ourselves is the time to slow down, listen to our inner thoughts, welcome the sweet stillness of being, and then move forward in a new enlightened and empowering way.
So what is my vulnerable confession?
I didn’t do much promoting of this book when I published it in 2016.
Because I was scared. I was scared of what other’s might think. And just when I thought I’d gotten past this issue as I wrote about it in my first memoir, “Through Frankie’s Eyes.”
But alas, I am human with real fears just like anyone else and I am a work in progress.
I was afraid to say that I believe in working with oracle cards to gain deeper understanding not only of myself, but of my connection with Spirit. It was during a two month sabbatical that I felt called to journal daily from from the guidance of oracle cards to help me find my way again as I write about in Wisdom Found in the Pause.
But I was afraid that other’s may reject me and think it strange – or worse yet, that they (oracle cards) are evil – and the belief that there is only one way in which we can connect with our Creator.
In reality, my belief in the mystical view of life has brought me even closer to Spirit and truly, given me an even deeper understanding of who I am as an individual and that I am a spark of the Divine – as we all are.
Not only have my dogs shown me this to be true in many ways, but animals in the wild too, along with signs in nature, and using oracle cards as a tool while journaling insight I received from them (and continue to) which brought me back home to what I already believed deep down inside.
But I’m now stronger in my resolve to stand in my truth and that I believe Spirit talks to us in many ways. It is Spirit that is always here for us and that we are apart of Spirit, not separate like we’ve been conditioned to believe.
And so purpose becomes about being in alignment with your truth, connected to Spirit. To continue to evolve, it’s about finding a way what works for you to stay connected with Spirit that guides us and helps us to step more fully into our personal power.
this I believe is the true purpose for which we came to this earth to experience and why we are here at this time…
to move fully into compassion and kindness and to live our lives according to what we define as meaningful, despite what society may deem so.
And so with my confession on the table, I am in deep gratitude to the dogs in my life that have worked tirelessly on my behalf to help me move more fully into my own power.
It is in part because of the lessons learned from them I am being called to offer a new service soon to help empower and guide others as an Intuitive Guide and Reader of Oracle Cards. I hope you will stay tuned for that announcement!
For now I thank you for reading my confession and being a part of my community…
and I say once again from my heart…
thank you for walking this journey with me. I appreciate each and every one of you. XO
WHAT OTHERS HAVE SAID ABOUT “WISDOM FOUND IN THE PAUSE:”
“My life has been turned upside down the last few months and I have been struggling with which direction to go in. I went through a whole set of emotions, anger, guilt, fear, and dread as I spent my summer worried about where my life was headed. After reading “Wisdom Found In The Pause” I felt such a sense of relief that it was okay that I felt all these emotions. This book will not only resonate with animal lovers, but with anyone seeking a more fulfilling life.” ~Lori Kattre Helke
“We’re busy, and in our busyness we sometimes lose our way and begin to find significance in what we do rather than who we are. Then, a pivotal event occurs that affects our chosen work and draws our attention to the fact that we’re out of balance. We try to push on, but find we’re traveling in a circle and return to the place that shook us and the lessons we missed. This is a book for anyone who understands the profound joy our animal companions bring to our lives. It’s also for those who find themselves in a tailspin of seeking significance by doing, reminding us that pausing amidst the cacophony is what allows us to hear the whisper of truth so we can stand strong and move ahead.” ~Linda Hoye
This memoir reads like a meditative guide to life. The challenges faced and the lessons learned from Joie made a lasting impression on me. I feel enriched and inspired for having read it. A heartwarming memoir with a powerful message about the lessons our pets can teach us. ~Kathleen Pooler
Wisdom Found in the Pause – Joie’s Gift e-book version available here on Amazon at special $2.99 price through Sunday, October 15th.
The sun streaming through the blinds woke me at five this morning. I tried to go back to sleep, but Frankie and the releasing of her ashes began to swirl through my mind, which I wrote about yesterday.
I lay in bed a bit longer thinking about her. It then occurred to me that in August she would have been seventeen years old. This is significant for me.
The day before I made the decision to help her cross to the other side I had a reading done by my friend and animal communicator, Dawn. I shared with her that I had wished Frankie could live to be seventeen. I don’t really know why I wanted that. But communicating this to Frankie, Dawn shared that Frankie felt seventeen – meaning she lived a full life and was ready to move on. That was very comforting to me.
I can’t help but link the significance of that to today being the five-year anniversary of her passing and my being ready to scatter her ashes.
I didn’t make any sort of plans for today. All I knew was that I would scatter her ashes around my writing cottage. I followed the flow of how my heart was guiding me.
At five-thirty I climbed out of bed and did my normal routine of feeding the dogs, etc. Eventually I made my way out to my writing cottage, twelve steps from my bedroom patio doors across the deck I walked. My heart in some ways felt heavy with knowing what lay before me.
I lit a candle and decided to pull out of my SoulCollage card deck the card I made of Frankie during the winter solstice two years ago. A card of her and the reminder of her gift to me – to always look for the light in dark times and to be the light as an example for others. While I didn’t know if I’d write about my experience today of releasing Frankie’s ashes, I knew in that moment I would.
Frankie taught me so much about the joy of living, but also that death should not be feared and to trust that our spirits live on and we can connect with our loved ones whenever we want.
Following my intuition I decided to also randomly choose two oracle cards. Joy and Dragonfly presented themselves. The universe definitly with me this morning. Joy is my favorite word and what joy Frankie brought not only to my life, but thousands of others in our work together.
Dragonfly had a message too and what Frankie taught me – to be authentically who I am – and Dragonfly card says, “You know who you are.” I do now… thanks to Frankie.
I smiled through my tears.
Continuing to follow what felt right, I did my Yoga practice. It was moving through my poses that I knew I’d sit with the box of Frankie’s ashes afterwards and listen to our song, Landslide, before I took the final step of scattering them.
I took my love, I took it down Climbed a mountain and I turned around And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills ‘Til the landslide brought it down Oh, mirror in the sky What is love? Can the child within my heart rise above? Can I sail through the changin’ ocean tides? Can I handle the seasons of my life?
Well, I’ve been afraid of changin’ ‘Cause I’ve built my life around you But time makes you bolder Even children get older And I’m getting older, too
My time with Frankie doing the work we did together was so incredibly rewarding that the words in this song, ‘I’ve been afraid of changin’ çause I built my life around you’ would often move me to tears…it was hard five years ago to imagine my life without her.
But time has made me bolder and I’m so much stronger because of Frankie – and getting older and time passing has certainly brought me to a new place of understanding.
While we never ‘get over’ a loss and what I’d often say is that we have to be gentle with ourselves and allow ourselves to ‘move through’ grief, I’ve now come to understand it now as that we ‘live with’ it – meaning that it just becomes a part of who we are. It changes us because we can never be what we were before – but hopefully we can rest in a deeper place of peace and a knowing that to love so deeply means we will experience great joy – and to bear the pain of loss is worth it to have this experience.
When I took Frankie’s box of ashes off the shelf yesterday I heard a rattling inside. Not sure what it was, I decided to wait to open the box until I was ready this morning.
The sun streaming through the east window of my writing cottage warming my face, I took a deep breath and opened the box. The mystery to the rattle brought a smile to my face – it was a stone I had placed inside with Frankie’s name and the date of her birth and death I’d written on it. I’d forgotten all about that.
Holding Frankie’s ashes in my hands I realized I was holding my breath. I knew it was because I was preparing, in a way, of letting go – of taking this final step. And though I felt some resistance, I reminded myself that this wasn’t really Frankie I was holding, but that her spirit was alive and well today and always – and here for me whenever I choose to connect with her.
As I walked across the deck and down the stairs the stillness and quiet of the morning took my breath away – it just felt so incredibly sacred that the earth seemed to be holding me with such a beautiful gentleness.
As I dipped my hand inside the bag holding Frankie’s ashes my hand shook slightly and my knees felt a bit wobbly. But something guided me as I released her ashes to the ground below…and step-by-step I moved around my writing cottage releasing her back to the earth to be among the stars, the universe, and the creator…
As I made my way to the east side of my writing cottage the honeysuckle plant I planted after Frankie’s passing came into view. You may recall my sharing here and in my book Through Frankie’s Eyes, that Frankie visited me as a hummingbird two weeks after her passing.
Well, I knew in that moment, the remainder of her ashes would become one with that honeysuckle and my heart smiled.
We are expecting rain later tonight which feels comforting to me to know that it will help in moving Frankie’s ashes deeper into the earth.
The morning flowed just as it was meant to be. While I shed a few tears, I feel at peace. Very much at peace.
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