Twenty Years – What a Ride! So Proud of Mr. Techel.

jt first truck0001John’s first business truck and trailer

This month John celebrates 20 years owning and operating his business, JT Construction. It certainly hasn’t been easy. But boy-oh-boy, have we both grown along the way.

Running a business isn’t for everyone. We have questioned many times if it was for us. While many will think there isn’t security in having your own business, the fact is that there is no security or guarantee in working for a company either.

John has wanted to throw the towel in many times, especially after one very trying client, 9/11, and when things fell apart with the economy in 2008. Those were certainly the most scariest of times hoping we would survive.  But John is an entrepreneur at heart and  believes strongly in small businesses…and most importantly, he loves what he does.

Just like anything in life, there are disadvantages and advantages. At the time he began his business, I had left a job I had been at for 12 years. Though I liked the work I did as Sales Coordinator at a local resort which was my new job close to home, the plan was for me to join John at some point to help with office administration duties. That became a reality four years later.

I wanted to work from home and was tired of the corporate world. But little did I realize that working side-by-side with my husband would cause a big test in our marriage. I don’t regret one single moment of working in our home office, because I grew in ways I could have never predicted. But the honest truth is, it wasn’t what my heart truly wanted. And more than that, I didn’t want our marriage to suffer because of the differences we had in running a business together.

Walking away from the business was one of the hardest and easiest things I ever did. I wasn’t giving up on John, but was making our marriage stronger, as well as making myself stronger, and John. He has simply amazed me with how he now handles (for the most part), all aspects of his construction business. I still lend my marketing expertise and lend my ear in times of frustration.

I’d have to say that 2008 through 2012 were the most challenging of years in business and we’ve had to make some tough choices – just like many others did, too. But it has made us who we are today. We are so much aware of what matters most to us, what choices we want to make, and how we want to live our lives. That to me, says so much.

I’m so very proud of John, his work ethic and how he provides for me and the dogs. Though I’m not in the office doing the bookwork any longer, I’m still part of the team lending my support in the best way that I know how by being who I am meant to be.

Setting Sail For New Horizons and a New Volunteer/Mentoring Opportunity

2014-06-08 16.26.47In April I had the opportunity to sit down with some of the young ladies and staff that make up Horizons4Girls, which is a non-profit organization in our area “helping young women navigate life’s road map.”

Their mission statement:  “Horizons4Girls works to help young women discover, in a safe setting, the options they have as they travel through life. Horizons provides a listening ear while working to stop at-risk behaviors. Horizons, while working with family, teachers, social workers and others, works to surround the student with a supportive and safe setting to fully develop necessary life skills as they continue into their adulthood.”

During our time together I shared with them my story which has led me to where I am today. We discussed everything from body image, worrying what others think of our choices, writing, judgement and following your heart. Gidget made a special appearance with me that day also and we talked about her disc disease, sharing with them that it does not define her.

Horizons4Girls helps these young ladies through staff and volunteer mentors with life skills, incorporating creativity in a variety of expressions, as well as involving them in community services.

A few weeks ago, Linda, who is on the Board of Directors, asked me if I’d consider being a volunteer/mentor. I have to say that I was quite honored, but I must also admit that I was nervous. Do I have what it takes to make a positive impact on these young ladies? It feels like a big responsibility.

But I was open to learning more, so I met with Founder, Char and Linda last week. They shared a few heartwarming stories of how the organization is making a difference in many young lives. I was even brought to tears from one of the stories.  While I didn’t make my decision that day, as I said I needed a day to think about it, I drove home knowing 99% I want to give this a try.

I’ve agreed to volunteer once a month for the next 6-12 months. A part of me is still nervous, but I’m also excited about this new opportunity. This, for me, is a sign that I want to try and see where it may lead. While yes, I am still nervous, I’m looking forward to my training Friday afternoon.

As I’ve shared on my blog before, I’ve been a part of a women’s group for the last 16-weeks called “Unwrapping the True Self” which has been so beneficial for my continued growth. Often during the discussions we have, I think of young women trying to make their way in the world today and how so much of what we learn in this setting could help them. So I hope to take what I’ve learned (and am continuing to learn), and be a positive example for Horizons4Girls and living from your true authentic self.

My first role this Thursday evening is helping plan a one day retreat for the girls, with Linda, and a life coach from the area, who has also volunteered her time.  So here we go!

My Writing Process Blog Tour

IMG_2067Feeling like I am part of the outside world with lots of windows and light is important to me for my writing process

I’m honored that I have been asked to take part in this blog tour called #mywritingprocess. It’s a tour that includes many writers of different genres and a sneak peek into their lives. Don’t you just love peeking in on what creatives are doing? I know I do because it never fails to inspire me! Each writer participating is answering a few simple questions.

I was invited by Linda Hoye who blogs over at A Slice of Life Writing. She has also written a touching and brave memoir called Two Hearts, An Adoptee’s Journey Through Grief and Gratitude. Linda has helped many who have been adopted and wrestling with the many emotions that often comes with this. I hope you will stop by her blog and learn more about her.

Without further ado, here are my answers to questions for #mywritingprocess!

What am I working on?

One of my passions is sharing with others the lessons our animal friends teach us. I’ve especially grown in ways I never imagined because of the dogs I’ve had the last twenty plus years. I often credit them for how far I’ve come in my personal development because of the many wise lessons they’ve taught me.

After two children’s books written about my dachshund, Frankie, who suffered from a disc disease and in a dog wheelchair, I went on to write a memoir about my journey with her called, Through Frankie’s Eyes which I released last February. Frankie taught me to stand tall in the woman that I am and make choices that matter to me without worrying what others may think.

In loving and caring for Frankie, and after she passed away, I knew I’d want to nurture another special needs dachshund. I was led to adopt Joie (pronounced Joey) from a rescue in the state of Washington. Sadly, she was only with me for short ten months before I had to give her the gift of letting her go due to numerous complications that had her in severe pain.

Currently I’m working on the story of what I learned from Joie. Many days I feel good about my writing process and where I am at with this book, there are some days I don’t like what I’m writing. But that is part of being a writer. I’m learning to trust the process, to accept where I am at with it, and to let it unfold as it is supposed to.

I continue to blog frequently for my blog writing about the human-animal bond, living an authentic, meaningful and simple life, and what inspires me. I also publish a newsletter twice a month, and am pursuing more guest post opportunities.

Why do I write what I do?

What I write about is what I am passionate about which are dogs, the human-animal bond, living simply, being authentic, and finding meaning and joy in our lives. I also want to be a positive light in the world, though yes, I’m not always positive, but I try to learn from each moment that is challenging and look for the blessings. I just feel there is enough bad news in the world. I want to make a difference by being a beacon of all the good that there is if we open ourselves to it.

I’m fascinated by what animals share with us if we are awake enough to observe and take in those lessons. I left the corporate world years ago because I didn’t like the hustle and bustle or how politics so often plays into world. I wanted a simpler life. I also wanted to live from my own values and choices and not get caught up in society expectations.

Often I find myself being still with my dogs and this helps center me in this place of just being and of being aware of what it is that makes me happy. And then doing what I can to live from that place. They are my daily reminders of choosing to live with joy. These are the things, moments and observations that I love to share and write about in hopes of helping others live from the center of who they truly want to be.

How Does My Writing Process Work?

When I left my full time J.O.B. almost 15 years ago (and wow just thinking about this now, I didn’t realize it was that long ago!), I had a challenging time finding what fit for me in terms of a schedule. The nine to five time frame was so ingrained in me. Still is, in many ways.

I thought there was maybe this “magic” formula by which all writers wrote. So often I’d read about the process of other writers and think, maybe I should do it their way? But over time I’ve learned to follow my own intuition. And honestly, there are some days that I don’t want to write. Those are the challenging days to plant my butt in the chair and write anyways. And usually what happens is I’m so glad that I did. It helps me to work through my thoughts which in turn helps me in special kind of therapy all just for me. But what I’ve also gained is a trust that I will come back to the page, my blog, the book I’m working on, or whatever project I have on my list.

My ideas and thoughts come to me most often while driving, in the shower, or out walking, so I try to have pen and paper with me to capture them. I also carry a small recorder for when driving since it is not a good idea to write while driving!

While there is much thought to writing by hand, for me, I have to use a laptop. My thoughts tend to come so fast that my fingers can’t keep up with pen and paper.  I do much better with my fingers flying across my keyboard!

Now I’m happy to share with you three writers I’ve nominated  to be a part of the #mywritingprocess blog tour. Please be sure to visit their blogs next week to learn about their writing process.

peg-kelly-full-body-shot-small2Meet Peggy Frezon and her writing companion, Kelly. Peggy Frezon is an author, pet columnist, and multiple award-winning freelance writer from New York. She contributes regularly to Guideposts and Angels on Earth magazines and is published in more than a dozen Chicken Soup for the Soul books. Her work can also be seen in magazines such as Woman’s World, Teaching Tolerance, Pockets and others, and in books including The Ultimate Dog Lover, Miracles and Animals, Soul Matters, and David Jeremiah’s Grace Givers. She writes two web columns, Pawsitively Pets and Animals 4 People, is a staff writer for Be the Change for Animals, and blogs at Peggy’s Pet Place, which will soon be relaunching as “The Writer’s Dog.” Her first book is Dieting with my Dog (Hubble & Hattie, 2011).

deanne001Meet Deanne Schultz who is a freelance writer and blogger. She specializes in human interest stories, newsletters, and proofreading. My work includes over 400 stories written for the Sheboygan Press, Herald Times Reporter and Lakeshore Living, a magazine distributed by their parent company, Gannett Media. She is currently working on a series of humorous essays titled The Green Hornet Suit and Other Musings.

kimMeet Kim J. Gifford. She used to describe herself as a writer and teacher by day and a mild-mannered pug owner and photographer by night, but then realized that’s not true. Yes, since she graduated from Middlebury College in 1990, she has been writing as a career on just about any topic imaginable including the kitchen sink, literally! And, she’s been teaching writing classes in Vermont and New Hampshire, particularly memoir writing, for almost as long. But, in recent years she returned to a love of art that began in childhood and also branched out into photography, realizing that both are just new ways of doing what she has been all along – telling stories. She has exhibited her photographs, art and collages throughout Vermont, New Hampshire and Washington County in New York state. She blogs over at Pugs and Pics.