hospice

8 Therapy Dogs Plus Two Little Girls Equals Joy

 
Every third Tuesday of the month Frankie and I attend a therapy dog meeting at Sharon S. Richardson Hospice, where we are also volunteers.  We get all the dogs together (oh, and the humans too!) where we talk about our experiences, do a little training, ask questions and do visits with the patients.
After doggie Christmas cookies were handed out during our December meeting this past week and some clicker training learned, we were eager to make some visits.  LuAnn and Sophie, who is a tiny little Yorkshire Terrier, and the best dressed among the dogs, are a very dedicated team at hospice.  They visit twice a week so they get to know some of the patients very well.  LuAnn shared with us that a young mom was waiting for us to visit.
Just hearing her say, “young mom” had my heart flutter with sadness.  LuAnn introduced each team and the young mom grinned bigger and bigger as each dog pranced up to her bed.  She told us that her girls, age 8 & 9 love dogs and were coming to visit her that evening.  They were first performing in their Christmas concert, but would be coming for a visit afterward.  She asked if we could all wait 15-minutes to surprise her girls.
A half hour went by and still no girls.  She felt bad we had to wait.  So she began video-taping each of the teams to share with her daughters.  I thought, it just isn’t the same, and was hoping with all my might the girls would magically appear soon.  And just as the taping began, they walked into the room with their Dad and Grandma!
The smiles on their faces and the excitement in their voices was the best gift ever!  It was as if it was Christmas morning and all their gifts were waiting for them as they came into the room.  Tails were wagging, girls were squealing, and parents and grandma had gleams of joy in their eyes.
It was a magical time as no sadness filled that room.  Only the simplicity of the human-animal connection.  The girls went from dog to dog, petting and cooing at each… and I realized that it was if the dogs all represented a reindeer.
Now Karma!  now, Stuart!  now Sophie and Ruby!  On, Kia!  On, Miley!  on Frankie and Martin!  To the young girls!  To each give them a kiss!  Now love them!  Now love them!  Love them forever!
One of the girls, Ellie, then recognized Frankie and excitedly said, “This dog has a book about her!”  And her sister, Renee, chimed in realizing it also, as the “awww” chorus followed as they bent down to pet Frankie.  I thought my heart was going to leap right out of my chest in that moment.  I quickly handed Frankie’s leash to LuAnn and whispered, “I’ll be right back.”  I couldn’t help but run out to my car, grab a copy of Frankie’s book, and gift one to each of them.  They were delighted!
Then, Stuart, a standard poodle, who knows oodles of tricks, became the center of attention, along with Ellie and Renee as they learned how to train a dog.  They helped Stuart with stay, sit, come and eventually how to circle around behind each of them.  The look of accomplishment in each of their beautiful eyes was priceless.
We each eventually made our way of the room that night, silent in our own thoughts.  As I drove home, Frankie perched beside me in her doggie car seat, I felt like Santa Claus with my little reindeer, Frankie, who delivered the best gift of all.  Moments of joy and love to a family who is hanging on to each precious moment…because it is all that we have… and all that truly matters.
I asked God to Bless this lovely family and didn’t ask “why” but tried to find peace and acceptance in what I cannot always understand.  And I then thanked Him again for all that He has blessed me with.
The names of the girls have been changed to protect their privacy.

Baxter’s Tribute Poem written by his Loving Mom, Melissa Joseph

A memorial service was held at San Diego Hospice where Baxter, the World's Oldest Therapy Dog worked his magic, up until the last day of his life on October 16th at the age of 19 1/2.  I still get choked up reading updates about this beautiful dog.  Video footage of the memorial is coming, so stay tuned.  But Melissa shared this poem on her website that she wrote for Baxter and read at his memorial tribute.  My heart continues to be with Melissa and her husband, Dennis as they move forward with Baxter firmly in their hearts and now as their spiritual guide.

A Dog’s Way

A dog’s love is so uncomplicated.

It‘s a relationship that consoles rather than upholds agendas…

It’s a relationship that gives and never takes.

It’s a relationship that fulfills rather than empties.

It’s a relationship that is loyal, never giving way to abandonment.

It’s a relationship full of many hellos and only one good-bye…. when they die.

Their love is magical, spiritual, pure and constant. When all else seems unreal, overwhelming, and perplexing, a dog’s love puts it in perspective.

Their fires for you never wane; they always burn and burn for you.

They get excited when you come home and sad when you leave.

They always want you. There is no debate about anything.

Their conversation is read through their eyes. They never tire of your voice. They are attentive, willing and relentlessly there for you.

They really only leave you one time…And, when that time comes, the love affair does come to an end. But, you know that you have been graced with an angel on earth.

They don’t judge you; they don’t ignore you; they don’t abhor you; they don’t hurt you.

They are true until they take their last breath.

There is no love like theirs.

To have a relationship with a dog is to have a taste of bliss.

And, to have a relationship with Baxter is to experience perfection on earth.

I love you Baxter!

How We View Death in Our Society… and What Animals Teach Us


I was just blown away by a post I found on the blog Hospice 4 Animal’s and one vets life changing experience she is having regarding hospice and death.  It struck such a chord with me that I had to share.  Being involved with hospice work with Frankie has opened my eyes and my heart to view death as not something dreadful or scary, but a time of transition.  And for me, personally, I don’t believe animals fear death… and wow, as you know me by now, I believe they teach us about living.  So without further ado, I share a portion of the blog post that blew me away and at the end invite you to read more at their blog, as well as invite you to share your thoughts.

“I have learned in our culture , especially in the USA, we AFRAID of death.  Sharen Myers quoted Margaret Mead who said “When someone is born, we rejoice.  When someone marries, we celebrate.  When someone dies, we pretend nothing happened.”  Death IS the equal and opposite process of birth.  If we want to live well, we need to die well and vice versa.  We may try to ignore this for ourselves, but we are faced with death full force with our pets.  We love them so much and they love us so purely.  We are responsible for them, feed them and take care of them, but in reality  they take care of us. I know there is an amazing spiritual, pure love connection with our animals.  I know I am being loved when I look into a kitty like Zoomi’s eyes.  There is a message there, and now I am not afraid to admit that, and thrive in that knowledge.  The Hospice Symposium has validated the path and the truth that I feel in my gut.  I have found the courage to change my life from that knowledge.  Something about dealing with the moment of death teaches us how to well live our lives.  There is the very kernal of sacredness here, and the lesson is to experience it. ”

Read more… and please do share your thoughts.