Take Joy In…Old Dogs

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Thank you to my sister-in-law, Shelly for sending me this beautiful poem below. It made me cry, but smile at the same time thinking of Frankie. Though we never want to lose our beloved pets, I couldn’t help but think how I really enjoyed Frankie as she aged.  Not that I didn’t enjoy her before that. But there was something simpler about life as she grew older.

It made me think about my own life. What is important to me. Reminding me to slow down. Reminding me to be open to all the magic in the world. That naps are important. That there is this unbelievable beauty in growing older. That the past is the past, but it’s okay to reminisce of what was.

With Frankie, I truly soaked in each moment. I knew there would come a day when I could no longer hold her physically in my arms. I breathed in the scent of her often. I was very conscious of how she felt. I sat and looked deep into her eyes, taking all her love into my heart.  Though it was one of the most painful losses I’ve had to date, I can say now I’m grateful for being so aware. When I find myself missing her, I sit on my sofa, look to the painting I have of her, as well as a photo, and I connect with her in a new way.

Indeed, there is joy in old dogs. And there is hope that once they pass that they will somehow, someway, still be with us, if we open our hearts to the magic of the unseen.

TAKE JOY IN…..OLD DOGS

Their joys are simple. A soft bed. A scrap fallen from the table that the younger dogs missed. The memory of a treed squirrel. A stormless night.

White whiskered faces and legs crooked as question marks.

Old Dogs…their sweet Buddha bellies hang over crossed legs as they fall asleep in a coveted patch of sun. Dreaming of out-racing their shadows down long, shady lanes.

Once they danced by your side. The very definition of joy unleashed. A perfect poem caught in shining eyes and wagging tails. They have followed you faithfully for years. And would plunge into fires, untamed wildernesses, raging waters if you asked.

Now, they struggle to catch up. Their pace slow but their hearts still valiant.

Their cloudy eyes are starting to dim and go distant, tuning in to some invisible world. Just beyond your reach.

Don’t go you say, as you scratch the tender part between their ears. Stay longer. I can’t imagine a world without your fur pressed close to my cheek. There are still so many roads we haven’t explored.

And they look up at you with a wisdom that just slays you.

Their backs are bent, not from the weight of years, but from the invisible wings they are growing
That will soon take them to a place where once more they are warriors of speed
Drunk with the sights and scents of a thousand meadows.
Able to leap high enough to touch the wing of the tiniest butterfly.

A place where they will now wait for you to catch up.

H/T Donna Swajeski / AnimalAidUsa.org

A few things about life. Expect the best and you will receive it.

I have seen this piece (below) before, but thought worth sharing.

One of the things I’m excited about for 2013 is that I will be turning fifty. I can hardly wait!  While so many women dread this age (and older), I plan to fully embrace it. I already am and it is not even here yet!  But all I know is I wasted an awful lot of time when I was in my 20’s and 30’s worrying about the silliest things. I don’t want to live that way any longer– well, really I learned that when I was forty, so I say bring fifty on!.  Age is just a number.  Nothing else.

It also makes me think of Libby, my dear 106- year old friend. I met her through my therapy work with Frankie. She was so beautiful. It was her spirit and zest for life that made you want to hang onto every word she said.. and let it sink deep into your consciousness so that you never wasted another precious moment on this earth worrying about things that really do not matter in the end.

And you know what else?  Dogs don’t worry about age, now do they?  So another reason to pay attention to their powerful lessons.

So with that all in mind, I share this wonderful article…

A few things about life. Expect the best and you will receive it.

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio.

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.  It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short – enjoy it.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don’t worry; God never blinks.

16.. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful.  Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to be happy but it’s all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.  Don’t save it for a special occasion.  Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words – ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive but don’t forget.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time.  Accept what you already have, not what you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

I loved many of these, but #23 was my favorite.  What is your favorite?

Joie Here! Last Day to Take Advantage of Special Holiday Offer on Frankie Books.

This is it.  Yup, that’s  right.  This.Is. It. Very last day to take advantage of the super cool offer my author mom is extending for the Frankie the Walk ‘N Roll Dog children’s book series.

Wouldn’t you just hate to miss out on this offer?  Even if you don’t give these wonderful books as holiday gifts you can tuck them away for birthdays, Valentine’s Day, etc. (hint:  just don’t forget where you put them.  Woof!)  Just click on the photo on the right to learn about the details of this special offer.

The Frankie books teach kids so many amazing lessons like:

  • Being positive even when up against challenges
  • Learning how making a difference makes your heart feel good
  • Understanding animals (and people) with special needs are just like you and me
  • That they can be brave when bad things happen

These books are also great for veterinarian’s offices to help educate others that dogs can live happy and fulfilling lives even with challenges like Frankie had (and me too)!   If you are looking for a way in which to donate, donating Frankie books to your local library or school is also something to give thought to.

Okay, I need a nap now.  All this promotion (from the heart!) has worn this little doggie out.

But do hurry!  This offer ends at midnight today.  All bookplates and magnet sets will ship on Thursday, December 13th and should arrive in time for Christmas.