How My Dog Joie & Joan Anderson’s memoir, “The Second Journey” Taught Me about the Importance of Learning to Pause.

joie 1200I was so exciting to read on Facebook today that one of my favorite authors books is being made into a motion picture. Well, actually, three of Joan Anderson’s memoirs are being rolled into one for the movie, A Year by the Sea which is also the name of her first book.  I’ve read all her books twice, with the exception of The Second Journey which I’ve read three times.

I actually got tears in my eyes when I saw the announcement because Joan’s books mean that much to me. They’ve helped me in countless ways.

I’ll be quoting Joan in my upcoming book, Joie’s Gift: Finding Purpose in the Pause. I actually may end up quoting her more than once, though I’m not that far along in my manuscript to know for sure. But the journal I kept during my sabbatical has many of her quotes that spoke to me during that time. Her books were the one’s I turned to once again seeking answers to my many unanswered questions.

At the time, which was last fall, I felt completely empty and spent after Joie passed away. I just didn’t know where my life was headed. Joan’s memoirs helped me to see once again, that pause’s in ones life are necessary to move forward.

I’ve written about this before, but with this announcement of the movie, it brought it all back for me again and the utterly amazing moment that happened to me a few weeks after Joie died.

Reading from The Second Journey, I came across the following passage which resonated with me deeply, which I read out loud to John and my friend Cassy who were with me at the time:

“Nothing happens overnight. Developing a relationship with the unknown takes time. In doing so, the seeker is granted the greatest gift of all—clarity.

I have come full circle yet again. I must always be willing to journey forward — spiral into the center and then back out again. Then and only then will I be whole, in touch with all that I am.” second_journeyI felt lost and no sense of direction as I headed into my sabbatical. Grieving yet for Joie, I also felt restless some days trying to just take this pause in my life, while at the same time wanting answers now. I was also questioning if what seemed like doing nothing was the right thing to do.

After I read that passage, I reached down to take a sip from my drink that was resting on the arm of the Adirondack chair.  Drips of condensation fell from the glass.  When I glanced down, this is what I saw:

water paw print 1200Always one open to signs, there it was right in front of me. I was in complete awe. To me, it was Joie’s affirmation, and her gift to me, that I was exactly right where I needed to be at that time in my life. No question about it what-so-ever.

I’ll be writing more about my sabbatical and what I learned from it in my book, Joie’s Gift- Finding Purpose in the Pause. But I sit here five months later with more clarity than I had then—Joie and Joan were right. Though I don’t always have a definitive path set like I felt I did the days I did with my work with Frankie, I learn more and more to trust that what needs to be revealed will continue to show itself to me.

I also feel a sense of new excitement for my manuscript which I’ve been working on for three months now. Some days I think it’s crap, some days I wonder if there really is a story here, and some days I just want to quit. But for the most part I keep showing up for a date with my laptop to write each day. And today I can’t help but think that hearing about A Year by the Sea in a small way is a message of clarity for me to keep going.  Thanks Joie and Joan— I needed to hear this today.

I really can’t recommend Joan’s books enough. Truly, a must read for every woman!  You can learn more about Joan and her books on her website.

Are You Curious about Animal Communication? Free Teleseminar.

imagesToday I’m excited to share with you information about a free teleseminar I’m hosting with author and animal communicator, Dawn Baumann Brunke.

The world of animal communication has been a fascination of mine for quite some time. I’ve personally had some very enriching experiences in working with Dawn and having her “speak” to Frankie, Joie and Kylie. Because of this, I’d love for others to experience a deeper connection with their pets too.

More information and how to register is below. Please also feel free to email me your questions ahead of time (barb@joyfulpaws.com) and we will try to get to as many as we can the evening of the call.

Animal Communication Free Teleseminar 

hosted by Barbara Techel with author and animal communicator, Dawn Baumann Brunke

Have you ever wondered:

What is animal communication and what can it do for you?

In this one hour free teleseminar we will explore how animals communicate with us and how we can open ourselves up to listen, which in turn can lead us to a deeper and more enriching relationship with our pets.

On Tuesday, April 8th, 2014 at 7:00pm central standard time, join us on this interactive call to learn more.

Are you ready to join us? All you need to do is enter your name and email below and we will send you the details to join us for this call.

Once you have signed up we invite you to email us your question to Barbara at barb@joyfulpaws.com

If you can’t join us live for the call, still be sure to sign up as we will send you the recording the day after the call.

About Dawn 

shapeimage_2Dawn is the author of five books about exploring our connections with the animal world.

The books: — Animal Voices — Animal Guides, Animal Guides —Shapeshifting with Our Animal Companions —Animal Teachings —The Animal Wisdom Tarot

All of the books explore different facets of how communicating with animals expands our conscious awareness, deepens our relationship with all beings, and helps us to discover more about ourselves. I offer animal communication phone readings and workshops. And, I am a former massage therapist, bodywork teacher, and editor of Alaska Wellness Magazine. For more, you are invited to explore my website, Animal Voices.

Being Alone No Longer Scares Me.

2013-11-28 18.41.29Yesterday was the last day of The Sacred Alone ecourse I participated in which author Susannah Conway facilitated. I really hated to see it end. Though I didn’t want it to end, I’m not so sure without the daily emails, I will do it on my own. Maybe not as regularly, but perhaps when I need to. Will see.

One thing I do want to be better at is meditating. Susannah provided some wonderful resources for that, so I’ll have to check it out. It feels like a linking miss for me. While at the same time it feels challenging for me to do as I find it hard to sit still too long without feeling so fidgety.

Something also occurred to me yesterday as I  thought about the idea of The Sacred Alone and being, well, alone.  I thought about when I was in my 30’s and there was no way I could have ever imagined that I could live on my own.

I’ve been married for almost 30 years. I’ve never lived by myself. I used to be terrified thinking about the day if John would die before me. I couldn’t imagine living alone. It really scared me. The idea of being alone no longer scares me so much. I’m not yet ready to be on my own, or I should say,  I don’t want to because of what that would mean and not having John by my side. But what is different now is that I know I will be okay. That makes a big difference.

I also recall quite a few years ago John saying to me that he didn’t worry about me being on my own any longer should something happen to him first. He said it gives him peace of mind as he used to worry about that.

I actually do spend a lot of time alone being that I don’t go to a job outside my home. For the most part, I love it. When I need to be around people, it’s nice to be able to choose for the most part, when I want to do that.

As I think about The Sacred Alone, it’s been lovely these last 14 days. It has affirmed for me that I truly do enjoy time by myself. I’m grateful for this season of my life to relish in the quiet and work alone. And I also appreciated this time to give myself permission to linger a bit longer in the mornings… to ponder, meditate and journal… and then “go gently” on with my day. “Go gently” is how Susannah signed her emails everyday, and I’ve taken it as a mantra to keep moving forward in my own life in this way too.

And should I forget, well, Little Miss Gidget is always my reminder to slow down and know that my life will move through the day just as it should be. Just as it should be.